THIS IS QUITE THE SUBJECT LATELY. FINDING BALANCE IN RELATIONSHIPS IS A VERY BROAD TERM. RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE RELEVANT TO LOVE, FRIENDSHIP, PARTNERSHIP, WORK......
BALANCE CAN BE DIFFICULT TO ACHEIVE BASED ON SO MANY THINGS. I FIND THAT ONE OF THE BIGGEST OBSTACLES OF BALANCE IN ANY RELATIONSHIP IS PROBLEMS WITH COMMUNICATION. IF YOU ARE AN ANGRY PERSON AND ONE PHRASE OR ISSUE IS BROUGHT UP IT CAN SET THE ENTIRE MOOD FOR THAT CONVERSATION OR BE TAKEN SO OUT OF CONTEXT THAT THE WHOLE THING IS OVER AND THERE IS NO POINT OF RETURN. THIS IS A VERY SAD CONCEPT FOR ME. IF PEOPLE WOULD LISTEN TO EACHOTHER MORE, CARE FOR EACHOTHER BETTER AND SHOW THE SIMPLE APPRECIATION FOR WHAT MAKES ANY RELATIONSHIP SPECIAL - YOUR RELATIONSHIP HAS THE POTENTIAL TO MAKE IT.
IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP THERE ARE UPS AND DOWNS. THERE ARE SOME VERY BASIC PRINIPLES IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP THAT ARE NOT A WANT OR DESIRE BUT RATHER A NECESSITY.
FIRST OF ALL YOU MUST HAVE A DEEP SENSE OF TRUST. IF YOU DO NOT HAVE TRUST THEN YOU MAY AS WELL TURN THE OTHER DIRECTION AND NEVER LOOK BACK. I HAVE A PERSONAL RULE FOR MY RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE BASED ON LOVE. THE FIRST THING IS WHEN YOU ENTER INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND YOUR PARTNER HAS FRIENDS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX AND THERE HAS BEEN NO EVIDENCE OF CROSSING THE BOUNDARIES OF BEING ANYTHING OTHER THAN FRIENDS - YOU MUST ACCEPT IT. YOU HAVE TO TRUST YOUR PARTNER. WHEN YOU OPEN YOUR HEART AND BEGIN A RELATIONSHIP THESE THINGS CAN DAMAGE EVERYTHING FURTHER INTO IT AND BRING RESENTMENT AS TIME GOES. A LOVE INTEREST SHOULD NEVER "CONTROL" YOU. HOWEVER, I DO FEEL IT IS QUESTIONABLE IF YOUR PARTNER BEGINS A NEW FRIENDSHIP WITH ANYONE THAT COULD BE A THREAT AFTER YOU HAVE ENTERED THE RELATIONSHIP. THIS IS ONE SURE WAY YOU CAN HAVE TRUST AND KEEP IT THAT WAY.
THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS THAT PLAY PART IN BALANCE AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. ONE THING THAT PLAGUES EVERYONE IS JEALOUSY.....THE THOUGHT THAT IS ALWAYS AT THE BACK OF YOUR MIND - CHEATING! I'M NOT A PERSON WHO HAS CHEATED BUT I DO BELIEVE THAT EVEN PEOPLE WITH GENUINE INTENTION HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO GIVE INTO THIS TEMPTATION THAT THE WORLD OFFERS. THE BOTTOM LINE IS TO AVOID A SITUATION THAT COULD EVEN BRING THIS TO YOUR ATTENTION. LETS FACE IT, WE LIVE IN A WORLD FULL OF BEAUTIFUL AND INTERESTING PEOPLE AND WE ARE ALL HUMAN.
COMMITTMENT IS CRUCIAL. PUTTING YOUR RELATIONSHIP ON THE TOP OF THE PRIORITY LIST IS ESSENTIAL. OTHER THAN CHILDREN OR FAMILY I DON'T KNOW WHAT IS MORE IMPORTANT. EVERYONE NEEDS TO FEEL SPECIAL OTHERWISE YOU END UP IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE YOU ARE JUST A FRIEND WITH A RELATIONSHIP WHEN IT'S CONVENIENT AND THAT ISN'T RIGHT.
I HAVE ALREADY SAID IT BUT I WILL SAY IT AGAIN - COMMUNICATION IS SO VERY IMPORTANT. WHEN YOU LISTEN AND TRULY UNDERSTAND WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS SAYING THERE WILL ALWAYS BE CLARITY. IT IS MUCH TOO EASY TO TAKE THINGS OUT OF PROPORTION OR HEAR ONLY WHAT YOU "THINK" YOU HEARD.
BOUNDARIES, COMMUNICATION, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, TRUST, AND THE FOUNDATION OF REAL FRIENDSHIP ARE THE INGREDIENTS OF ANY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO BE ANGRY OR HURT AND VOICE YOUR FEELINGS IN CONFIDENCE WITHOUT THE FEAR THAT WHAT YOU SAY WILL BE REPEATED. YOUR RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD BE SECURE ENOUGH THAT YOU CAN SHARE THINGS BECAUSE THAT PERSON KNOWS YOUR HEART AND NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR WHAT YOU MAY BE VENTING, YOU ARE NOT BEING JUDGED - BUT SIMPLY BEING HEARD.
THIS IS ONE TOPIC THAT HAS SO MANY DIFFERENT SCENARIOS AND SITUATIONS THAT NOT EVERY RELATIONSHIP CAN BE BUILT GENERICALLY.
THE LAST THING I WANT TO SAY, OR RATHER STRESS, IS THAT YOU NEED TO SHOW THE PEOPLE WHO MATTER IN YOUR LIFE TO FEEL THAT FROM YOU....ALWAYS. LIFE IS DIFFICULT BUT TO KNOW YOU ARE BEING THOUGHT OF, CARED ABOUT AND LOVED IS A SUCH A SIMPLE YET VERY IGNORED TASK. LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP GO HAND IN HAND SO MAKE SURE YOU FIND THE RIGHT BALANCE FOR YOU AND WHEN YOU HAVE IT DON'T EVER LET IT GO.....
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