HOW TO DEAL WITH SUCH PEOPLE...

I HAVE SERIOUSLY HAD IT WITH SUCH ABSENT MINDED PEOPLE.  WHY CAN'T PEOPLE JUST BE AT THE VERY LEAST CIVIL?  MAYBE THAT IS TOO MUCH FOR SOME PEOPLE TO GRASP - THE SIMPLE ACT OF HUMANITY. 
YOU KNOW THE SAYING "TREAT PEOPLE AS YOU WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED".....WELL IT DOES NOT WORK!!!  PEOPLE STILL TREAT YOU AWFUL.  HERE IS AN EXPERIENCE I CAN TELL YOU I WILL NEVER FORGET, AND I MEAN NEVER.
IT'S SAD TO TRUST SOMEONE SO MUCH AND YOU ARE STABBED IN THE BACK REPEATEDLY UNTIL THE KNIFE IS JUST THERE.  YOU HAVE DONE ALL YOU CAN FOR THIS PERSON AND EVERYONE IS TREATED WITH THOUGHT AND KINDNESS BUT YOU....THAT PERSON WHO HAS BEEN THERE WHEN NO ONE ELSE WAS.  THE PERSON WHO UNDERSTOOD THEM WHEN NO ONE ELSE DID.  THE PERSON WHO BELIEVED IN THEM, AND TO SOME DEGREE, STILL DOES.  YET YOU WONDER HOW IT IS YOU COULD BE SO GIVING TO THEM OF YOUR HEART AND PIECES OF YOUR SOUL, YOUR INNER MOST PRIVACY, AND THEY TREAT YOU LIKE WHAT????  IT'S A TERRIBLE FEELING. 
WHEN I WAS YOUNG I WAS VERY INSECURE AND THOUGHT SO LITTLE OF MYSELF.  I WAS A TOMBOY (STILL AM), AND I WAS LOOKED AT AS MERELY "ONE OF THE GUYS" BECAUSE ALL OF MY FRIENDS WERE MALE.  I WAS NEVER TAKEN SERIOUSLY AS ANYTHING ELSE.  THEN, MUCH TO MY SURPRISE I END UP HAVING MY FIRST SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE I GREW UP WITH AND WAS A FRIEND FROM WAY BACK WHEN.  WE WERE SAVING OURSELVES FOR MARRIAGE AND AFTER NEARLY TWO YEARS OF A VERY SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP HE ASKED ME TO MARRY HIM.  OF COURSE I SAID YES.  THE HAPPINESS WAS GONE SO QUICKLY WHEN I FOUND OUT HE HAD BEEN MESSING AROUND.  I QUESTIONED MYSELF AND BLAMED MYSELF.  ALL THOSE SAME INSECURITIES CAME BACK AND I WONDERED WHY I WASN'T GOOD ENOUGH.
NEARLY TWO DECADES LATER I END UP BACK IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS SAME PERSON.  LET ME TELL YOU - WHEN I SEE A MAN AS A FATHER I SEE THEM SO DIFFERENTLY.  I SEE A MAN WHO LOVES AND VALUES HIS RESPONSIBILITY AND SUCH A BEAUTIFUL THING TO BE WITNESS TO.  HERE IS A GUY WHO REALLY GREW UP - YOU THINK.  YOU INVEST IN THEM ALL OVER AGAIN ONLY THE STAKES ARE HIGHER BECAUSE OF THE PAST AND BECAUSE THERE ARE NOW CHILDREN INVOLVED.  IT FELT SO NATURAL.  THERE WAS SUCH A FAMILIARITY AND COMFORT THAT THERE WAS JUST NO WAY IT COULD BE WRONG. 
I'VE ALWAYS CONSIDERED MYSELF TO BE A PRETTY GOOD JUDGE OF CHARACTER BUT ONE FLAW I DO HAVE IN THAT IS THE FACT THAT I ALMOST REFUSE TO SEE WHAT IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY EYES.  ALL THAT WARMTH I FELT AND TRUST I GAVE MEANT ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.  IT ENDED UP WORSE THAN THE LAST TIME. 
THE LESSON IN THIS IS THAT HISTORY REPEATING ITSELF IS NOT A MYTH.  IT'S A FACT AND YOU MAY WANT TO BE SO RIGHT AND STRONG IN YOUR CONVICTION BUT IT ENDS UP ALL THE SAME. 
NEVER IGNORE YOUR GUT FEELING.....EVEN IF IT HASN'T HIT YOU YET!  OTHERWISE YOU WILL END UP IN MY POSITION OF BEING A HUMAN DOORMAT AND IT FEELS PRETTY BAD.