HOW SUPERFICIAL ARE YOU?

EVERYONE WILL SAY THAT THEY SEE SOMEONE FOR WHO THEY ARE AND NOT WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE.  I FEEL THAT I AM A PERSON WHO IS FAIR IN THAT DEPARTMENT.  IN MY LOVE LIFE I HAVE BEEN INVOLVED WITH SOME OF THE MOST ATTRACTIVE MEN AND I HAVE BEEN INVOLVED WITH MEN THAT OTHERS WOULD SCRATCH THEIR HEAD IN WONDER....
THE TRUTH OF IT IS THAT WE ALL WANT TO BE THE "BIGGER PERSON" AND SEE BEYOND THE OUTER LAYER OF A PERSON BUT CAN YOU REALLY LOOK AT A PERSON AND KNOW THEIR HEART?  IT'S ONLY HUMAN TO SEE A PERSON AND FIND AN IMMEDIATE ATTRACTION BY THE WAY THEY LOOK.  THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.  ON THE OTHER HAND THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO WON'T LOOK AT ANYTHING BUT THE OUTER LAYER.  A LUSTFUL ATTRACTION RATHER THAN A LASTING RELATIONSHIP WITH DEPTH AND SUBSTANCE.
AT MY AGE I FIND THAT I AM STRUGGLING WITH THE CHANGES IN MY BODY THAT I NEVER HAD BEFORE.  SUPPOSEDLY IT'S AGE AND THE CHANGING OF A WOMAN'S BODY BUT FOR ME I HAVE NEVER HAD STOMACH FAT AND IT IS SOMETHING I REFUSE TO JUST GET USED TO. 
WHEN I AM OUT IN PUBLIC FOR WHATEVER REASON, I LOOK AROUND AND I OBSERVE PEOPLE RATHER THAN LOOK THEM UP AND DOWN.  I WONDER WHAT IT IS THEY ARE LOOKING AT.  IT'S SO GROSS TO SEE A GUY WITH HIS WIFE/GIRLFRIEND WHO IS LOOKING AROUND AT OTHER WOMEN AND THERE ARE SCREAMING CHILDREN IN THE SHOPPING CART BUT HIS EYES ARE GLUED ON SOMETHING OTHER THAN HIS CHILDREN WHO ARE ABOUT TO JUMP HEAD FIRST OUT OF THE CART.  THIS IS SO FRUSTRATING TO SEE AND SHAMEFUL.  IF I HEAR ONE MORE GUY SAY "I'M A GUY, I CAN'T HELP IT"  ......BULLSHIT!  THAT IS THE LAMEST THING I HEAR.  IF THAT IS TRUE - THE WHOLE "GENDER" ATTITUDE AND GENERAL FEELING OF ENTITLEMENT THEN WE ARE IN TROUBLE.  WOMEN COULD GET TIRED OF THEIR MAN GOING OUT OF THEM, NEVER FEELING LIKE THEY ARE ENOUGH FOR THE MAN THAT PROMISED TO LOVE THEM AND BE THERE FOR THEM UNCONDITIONALLY - NOT TO MENTION THE FAMILY.  AND YET, WE WONDER WHY SO MANY PEOPLE CAN'T BE CIVIL WHEN A BREAKUP OCCURS AND THE CHILDREN PAY FOR THE RESENTMENT THEIR PARENTS HAVE AGAINST ONE ANOTHER.  IT'S RIDICULOUS.  IT ENDS UP BEING A NO WIN SITUATION.
I KNOW OF A FEW MEN RIGHT OFF THE TOP OF MY HEAD WHO FEEL SO VICTIMIZED BY WHAT THEIR EX IS PUTTING THEM THROUGH.  PLEASE LET ME MAKE ONE THING VERY CLEAR - A MAN PLAYING "VICTIM" IS THE MOST UNATTRACTIVE AND EMASCULATING QUALITY THAT I PERSONALLY CANNOT STAND!  IT'S GROSS.  THEY ARE NOT A VICTIM. 
YES, THERE ARE SOME NASTY SITUATIONS BUT WE CANNOT CONTROL ANOTHER PERSONS ACTIONS SO WHY GET SO WORKED UP AND UPSET?  THE ONLY THING WE CAN DO IS TRY TO MAINTAIN AND LIVE RIGHT AND LEAD BY EXAMPLE.
SO THIS TAKES ME BACK TO THE OVERALL QUESTION OF BEING SUPERFICIAL.  NINE TIMES OUT OF TEN RELATIONSHIPS GENERALLY ARE VISUALLY BASED BUT THE REAL QUESTION IS WHETHER OR NOT IT WILL LAST.  NOBODY CAN BE WITH SOMEONE WHO THEY ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO IN SOME WAY.  IT DOESN'T EVEN COME DOWN TO A SEXUAL THING.  THERE HAS TO BE A MUTUAL RESPECT AND LOVE THAT CAN GO FOR THE LONG HAUL.  THERE ISN'T A RELATIONSHIP I KNOW OF THAT HAS BEEN EASY.  IT IS WORK AND COMMITMENT.  LET'S FACE IT - WE LIVE IN A WORLD FULL OF BEAUTIFUL AND INTERESTING PEOPLE BUT IS IT WORTH A LITTLE LUSTFUL FUN AND RISK RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP/FAMILY?  IF YOU ARE A SUPERFICIAL PERSON AND JUST NEED THAT "VARIETY" IN YOUR LIFE THEN YOU ARE POSSIBLY GOING TO CARRY CRABS THAT DIDN'T COME FROM THE BEACH AND YOU WILL LIVE A VERY LONELY LIFE.  A LASTING RELATIONSHIP THAT CAN ENDURE ALL OF THE TEMPTATION AROUND US AND COMPLETE YOUR LIFE IN SO MANY WAYS IS WORTH IT - TO ME.  IN OUR SOCIETY ANYTHING GOES AND IT'S DAMAGING THE CHANCES OF EVER BEING ABLE TO EXPERIENCE THE REALNESS THAT A RELATIONSHIP HAS TO OFFER.  IT'S FAIR GAME THOUGH - IT TAKES A HELL OF A MAN AND AN AMAZING WOMAN TO MAKE THIS WORK BUT IT IS ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE. 
I'M THE POSTER CHILD FOR PATHETIC RELATIONSHIPS AND I WANT AT LEAST ONE MAN TO PROVE MY NEGATIVE FEELINGS WRONG.  I DOUBT I WILL EVER GET MARRIED BUT I WOULD RATHER BE SINGLE AND CONTENT THAN BE WITH A MAN WHO DOESN'T FULFILL ME.  IT ISN'T WORTH IT TO ME TO WORRY ABOUT A GUY WHO YOU KNOW IS ALWAYS LOOKING FOR SOMETHING BETTER OR THE OPPORTUNIST JUST WAITING FOR AN OFFER THAT YOU CAN'T COMPETE WITH. 
THIS HAS BEEN MY TOTAL BITCHING SESSION BECAUSE THESE ISSUES IRRITATE ME TO NO END AND IF ANY OF YOU MEN ARE READING THIS PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE GIVE SOME INPUT.  I KNOW THAT MANY OF US WOMEN WOULD JUST LOVE TO HEAR WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY.